12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life & Why You Should
As a Christian Matchmaker and Dating Coach I often hear the struggles of being single, of dating and of the reality that most Christian Singles face when it comes to dating or feeling isolated in the church. I want to pose a different strategy that I think anyone (regardless of your relationship status) can inhabit in their everyday life.
Living in a time where let’s be real even church caters to couples and families, it can often feel lonely and isolated as a single, but let it serve as a reminder, that life is what you make it.
The bible tells us in James 4:14 “For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appeareth for a little time, and afterward vanisheth away” not to sound dreadful, but it truly reminds us that life is short, and we are only here for a little while.
So we should be romanticizing our life. What does it even mean to romanticize your life?
It means to look for beauty, appreciate the small things, and celebrate what you already have. It’s a way to experience life with gratitude and to find pleasure in the little things.
Just like Philippians 4:8 says “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things”
Learning to love your life solo without anyone else helps you cherish every day whether you end up in a relationship or not.
So here is 12 ways that you can Romanticize Your Single Life & Why You Should
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#1 Take Yourself On Dates
There is something so wonderful about solo dates. Now I know what some of you are thinking, and I get this is really hard to get the courage to do but once you do it’s truly great. Not only do you not miss out on that movie, or the new restaurant you wanted to try, but when you spend time alone you actually get to know yourself better which is so important to do in your singleness.
Learn what makes you tick, what makes you smile, what makes you laugh, things you enjoy and things you don’t enjoy. There is only one of you and you get to be you for the rest of your life – so embrace the journey.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#2 Go On Prayer Walks & Discover The Beauty Of God’s Creation
There is something so wonderful about how vast this world is. God created this whole world and it’s honestly so beautiful, so take time to enjoy it. Go on prayer walks and enjoy spending time with just you and the Lord. Stop to smell the flowers, look at the birds in the sky, take notice of your environment. Stay off your phone and simply enjoy communing with God.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#3 Learn A New Skill
When we were children we constantly were learning and we weren’t afraid to be beginners, and then we grew up and it seems that we expect to be experts at everything and are almost afraid to be beginners. It is so hard but trust me it’s incredible to get uncomfortable and learn something new. Take a chance and be a beginner!! You may fall in love with something new.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#4 Go Out Or Stay In & Invite Other’s To Join You
There is nothing better than cultivating friendships and stewarding them well. Invite others to join you for a movie night in, or invite someone and go check out a new restaurant. Being an adult is challenging and we need to fill our cup with great people. Friendships don’t maintain themselves so make sure you take care of them.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#5 Buy Yourself Flowers … just because
Buy yourself flowers… just because. Sometimes we need to splurge and buy us something just because it makes us smile, especially if this is unusual for us. If you don’t show up for yourself, how do you expect someone else to show up for you?
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#6 Find Rest In Jesus & Practise The Sabbath
The Sabbath is a commandment! Yet how often do we actually slow down and embrace rest (and no I don’t mean Netflix bingeing all day), but truly take one day a week where you embrace rest (whatever rest looks like to you).
Maybe that’s making a good meal, going to a coffee shop and reading a book, maybe that’s taking a stroll, going to the beach, or catching up with friends over brunch. Embrace rest. God gave it to us as a gift.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#7 Go On A Solo Trip, A Christian Singles Retreat Or Staycation
Plan that trip! Be spontaneous! Take a chance or meet us at a Christian Singles Retreat. So often we put off our life until we get married, but tomorrow is not promised. Do something you wouldn’t typically do, go somewhere you have always wanted to go.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#8 Practise Self Care
What does self care look like to you? For me, it’s getting in a workout 4-6x a week, stretching, eating foods that fuel me, it’s a face mask, reading a good book, it’s soaking in the presence of Jesus, it’s slow walks, and slow mornings with no alarms. Self care looks different for everyone but it’s so important that we take care of ourselves. The bible says we must love our neighbour as ourselves so if we don’t love ourselves it’s very challenging for us to love others.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#9 Journal and Read Your Bible
Their is something so amazing about being consistently in the word of God but also journalling. Journalling helps us process things, helps put things into perspective and can just be letters between yourself and God. The bible is full of wisdom and it’s wild how much being consistently in your bible gives you wisdom for each season.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#10 Go To A Farmers Market, An Antique Market or somewhere with pretty things
Check out a Farmers Market or another kind of Market, buy some fresh veggies, homemade jams, salsas or anything that isn’t just your normal routine of putting groceries in a cart at the grocery store.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#11 Cook Yourself An Elaborate Meal
Use the groceries you bought at the farmers market to make an elaborate meal or a recipe that you have never made before.
12 Ways To Romanticize Your Single Life
#13 Go To A coffee shop and read a book
Check out a local coffee shop and read a book and people watch. Slow down and just enjoy without any schedule.
Bonus 13: Create A Bucketlist
Create a bucket list to work through and do all the things you have always wanted to do.
Written By Michelle Apples
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