5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In
I think so often we make reaching out to someone so complicated, when it really doesn’t have to be. Here’s 5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In
5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In #1 I
I would recommend starting out with zero pressure, a simple greeting telling the person hello, ask them how they are, and/or tell them your name. Say something that stood out to you on their profile and share your mutual interest that you see. Don’t make it weird or awkward and don’t send multiple messages in a row, novel like messages or anything that may appear too clingy. This is a first impression and you want to come off as friendly, confident, and competent.
For example: “ Hey There, My name is Michelle and I saw on your profile that you love hiking as well. Where is your favourite hiking spot? I am thinking of going on a trip to Lake Tahoe, have you ever been?
By asking a question it is more likely going to get a response then if you just go to a full stop without asking a prompt. So often people will get butt hurt that someone never responded to them, but their was no room to reply or no guidance of how to respond to them.
5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In
#2 , let’s start by Complimenting Them – everyone likes to hear compliments (even if someone doesn’t want to admit they do).
Example: I really like how adventurous your profile appears. What kind of adventures have you gotten up to lately?
5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In #3 , Another good thing is to Be Vulnerable – And I don’t mean to over share or go into too much detail about your life, but it’s a proven fact that if you don’t get vulnerable pretty quickly on the first or second date nothing will progress.
You may wonder why and it’s because there is no depth. If you’re vulnerable, you’re emotionally mature. Being vulnerable by “saying you like someone, or that you had a really great time” allows you to “bond and connect with each other. On the other hand it does open you up to potentially being rejected, but if you are looking for an actual relationship you need this for it to progress.
Example: I had a really great time today, thank you so much for taking the time to connect. I’m looking forward to seeing you again.
or if someone brings up that they are divorced (and maybe you can relate), then share that. Don’t leave someone being vulnerable alone.
5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In #4 You must Be Confident – Confidence is important. It shows that you know you’re worth, you are confident in who you are and you don’t need someone else to fill voids in you. Don’t be afraid to get rejected. If you do, so what! Not everyone is going to like you and we live for an audience of one.
5 Ways To Reach Out To Someone You Are Interested In #5 , Remember to Be Clear/Direct – Most people are poor communicators. They expect someone to know how they feel or to read their mind and that just doesn’t happen. Be direct. Most people’s pet peeves when someone reaches out and is constantly questioning their intentions. Most people play games, and everyone hates it- be authentically refreshing and you will stand out amongst the crowd.
Is there anything you do when reaching out to someone to help you stand out amongst the crowd?
Written By Michelle Apples
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Good stuff. I assume this article is talking about online dating, from the wording.
It’s definitely a good idea to comment on something from their profile. It shows that you actually took time to read it. And, for sure, keep it simple. Dating apps and sites are just tools to find people so you can potentially meet them, that’s all. You can’t “date” someone over an app.
Some people can definitely overcomplicate this.
Also, it might be helpful to limit your messages on an online app or site, and save real conversations for an in-person date. Short texts are good for things like arranging dates, times, and places to meet for a first date (or second, etc.)
It also helps to show a little humor in your written messages. “You seem obsessed with reading! Me too!” You
I too, get “butt hurt” by people who don’t reply, haha. Mostly, however, this is from people who ghost. Don’t ghost people you’re exchanging messages with on an app. It might be the easy option for YOU, but for the other person it’s confusing, annoying and, well, kinda immature.