9 Ways To Avoid Situationships
I hate new terms when it comes to dating, but I have had quite a few people talk to me about Situationships and how they find themselves falling into these when it comes to dating.
So people keep asking, how do you avoid situationships?
And what are situationships ?
According to google a Situationship is:
a romantic relationship without a clear label or commitment. It’s more than friends with benefits, but less than a committed relationship.
So here are 9 ways to avoid situationships:
#1 You need to be upfront about your intentions from the start, clearly communicate what you’re looking for in a relationship, and that you are indeed in pursuit of a relationship and aren’t just looking for someone to hang out with or have fun with?
What you need to avoid/look out for: If someone continues to go on about how they are just really slow to commit, then you need to be careful. Often times people will say these things (not saying they aren’t true), but it’s how they avoid actually committing to someone. When someone really likes someone, they will take the risk to commit and it won’t take them 6-12 months to do so.
#2 Avoid getting physically and instead focus on establishing a solid emotional foundation.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: If everything is surface level, and nothing ever goes emotionally deeper in the relationship then it may be a sign that someone is looking for a more casual or fun fling and not a dedicated relationship or if they are rushing the physical intimacy and not trying to bond emotionally.
#3 Focus on quality over quantity when dating. Prioritize meaningful connections with a few individuals over casually dating many people at once.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: If the person has been getting to know you for months, but is still looking around for something that might be “better”, than they are just keeping you around until they find something better.
#4 Ask open-ended questions:
Go beyond superficial conversation and delve into deeper topics to understand someone’s values, goals, and outlook on relationships.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: If someone doesn’t allow you to know them on a deeper level they may have some attachment issues or if they avoid conversations of the future, the avoid making plans in the future and their is a total lack of commitment.
#5 Set boundaries early on:
Discuss what level of commitment feels comfortable for you and communicate any dealbreakers you have.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: If someone is expecting high standards from you, but aren’t putting forth the effort themselves.
#7 Pay attention to red flags:
You know the red flags, they are the things that make you pause and take a deeper look.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: Be wary of people who are vague about their intentions, avoid discussing serious topics, or seem overly focused on physical attraction.
#8 Trust your gut:
If you feel like someone is only interested in a temporary arrangement, don’t be afraid to move on.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: If you have been dating for months and they won’t define the relationship, plans are always last minute and you are feeling constant stress and anxiety, it may be time to cut them loose and let them go.
#9 Look at how much effort some one else is putting in and make sure it’s an equal amount.
What you need to avoid/lookout for: If you are always the one putting forth the effort and it’s a one way street, that should tell you that this person is not invested in you.
Remember you are worthy of a relationship, and worthy of someone who wants to commit to you. If you are looking for commitment do not settle for anything less than that. Your time, space, energy, resources are valuable. Invest in the people that value you and see your worth.
Written By Michelle Apples
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