Creating A Vision For Your Relationships because without vision People Perish. Why? What Does That Mean As A Christian Single?
Today I want to look closely at two verses in the bible that have came up for me in the past few months., and talk about crreating a vision for your relationships.
The first one being Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no vision, the people perish”. Without a long-term plan—without a vision—people are doomed to wander aimlessly.
This brings me back to the quote from Alexander Hamilton “those who stand for nothing will fall for anything”, When we have no vision and no standard for our life or relationships we will tend to fall into traps or vicious cycles because we don’t have an aim of where we are going or what that even looks like. Thus we need to create a vision for your relationships.
There is so much truth to Habakuk 2:2 “write the vision plain on tablets”. When we write down the vision for our future relationship then we are able to better recognize when something doesn’t fit into that vision, but if you don’t know or recognize that vision then it’s easy to hold on to something because it is fun or comfortable knowing that it is not from God but not being able to recognize why.
The next verse I want to look at is Genesis 4:13 God spoke to Cain and said “when you work the ground, it will no longer yield its crops for you. You will be a restless wanderer on the earth.”Cain said to the Lord, “My punishment is more than I can bear.”
The first time I read this I was so confused, let’s be honest prior to the pandemic if someone said we could just do nothing and be lazy for the rest of our lives we would have probably taken them up on it, but here we say that he couldn’t bear it, but why is that?
Because he lacked purpose. He had no fulfillment.
I started reading the book “The Sacred Search” by Gary Thomas and his question being what if it’s not about who you marry, but why?
He goes on to say “problems in marriage usually erupt from trying to build a life together without purpose, without mission, without something that not only establishes a connection but keeps you caring about each other for the next sixty years.”
So what do these two verses speak to us about life in the context of relationships. How are you cultivating your own vision and purpose into your dating relationships leading to marriage? Do you know the vision and are you two aligned with similar visions?
Vision is important & Purpose is crucial. So how do you create a vision for your relationships?
First I would start in prayer and ask the Lord to reveal to you the vision for your future relationship, and then I would start reflecting and journalling who you want to be in 5-10 years of your life and beyond. When we are looking long term we are able to see past the superficial things that people tend to look for in a spouse.
Instead of focusing on exterior qualities, you will start to see beyond those. If you desire kids, are you looking for someone who will be a steadfast Father or a nurturing mother. If you feel called to go abroad on missions, maybe you are looking for someone who can be more spontaneous, and up for that adventure. Then start writing and ask the Lord to reveal to you anything in your vision that is worldly rather than God honouring. Meditate and pray on this vision.
Written By Michelle Apples
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