Recently, my husband and I shared a heartfelt conversation with a woman navigating her dating life. As we talked for over an hour, a key question emerged: “How did you know?” Many Christian singles grapple with this, fearing the pain of a wrong decision. Remember, relationships can deeply impact our hearts, romantically or otherwise.
In my story, God showed my husband that I was his future wife. He kept this revelation to himself until after we were engaged, not wanting to influence my choice. He believed that if God truly spoke to him, time would confirm it. As for me, God didn’t explicitly tell me my husband was ‘the one.’ Unlike my past relationships, where I rushed in imagining each man as husband material, this time was different. God taught me to take it one day, one date at a time.
At a certain point, I asked myself, “Would God be pleased if I married this man, based on the Godly fruit I see in his life?” In my heart, the answer was a resounding yes. Sure, God could have directly told me, like He did my husband. However, He wanted me to trust in His voice, His promptings. This was an opportunity for growth, understanding that any decision made in true faith meant Jesus had my back, regardless of the outcome. Our faith lies not in the results but in Jesus, who never fails us.
So, if you’re wondering, “How do you know?” consider this: Do you trust God to lead you in the right direction? In my experience, I not only saw Godly fruit in my husband but also his consistent pursuit and clarity. With him, there was never confusion. Everything I prayed for, I found in his heart and character.
As Christians, our dating life is a walk of faith. We don’t need to over-spiritualize everything, but we can certainly partner with God. Approach dating with an open heart, inviting Holy Spirit for discernment. If it’s not right, it’s okay to walk away. If it feels right, continue with the confidence that clarity will come with time.
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus
& on Instagram @mysingleplus
