10 Green Flags In Dating
So often you hear us talk about the dreaded Red Flags that happen in dating, but you don’t ever hear about the Green Flags.
Here are 10 Green Flags In Dating to watch out for when you are dating someone.
If you aren’t sure of a date, check this list and ask yourself – Do they exhibit these qualities? Do I feel safe? Do I feel respected and honoured as an individual?
So here are 10 Green Flags In Dating:
1.) You can be yourself around someone – when you are able to show up as your authentic self not only is the date going to be more successful, but you are also more comfortable along the way. Don’t perform, or entertain, but simply be yourself.
2.) They treat people you come across (waitress, service staff, people on the street etc) with respect. This shows that when things start to fizzle or the chemistry dies down that they will also treat you the same way. They will also treat your family and friends that way as well.
3.) Good communication. Quality communication between two people can be way more important in a relationship than compatibility and is huge part of good chemistry. Do you feel like you can communicate with the person or do you feel like you constantly get interrupted or that you have to walk on eggshells around certain topics.
4.) When someone admits to their mistake and/or owns up to it, rather than making an excuse. If they are showing up late – are they apologizing or making excuses? Do you always catch them making excuses when you confront them with something or are they quick to apologize?
5.) Someone who listens and pays attention – do they genuinely want to get to know you or are they distracted when they are talking to you. Someone who is right for you will want to listen when you talk, will be genuinely interested in what you are saying.
6.) How they talk about other people – are they complaining or complimenting people behind their backs. How do they talk about their Pastors, Friends, Family to you. How do they talk about past dating experiences, ex boyfriends/girlfriends? How people talk about others shows you how they will talk about you when you aren’t around.
7.) Intentionality – They are intentional about the date. They plan something they know you would like, or ask questions to see if they can come up with something you like. It’s not just about them but they genuinely care about finding the things you enjoy and creating experiences/gestures around them.
8.) They respect your boundaries – no questions asked. They want to honour you/respect you in every way. They won’t push you into anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
9.) They stay off their phones – it’s just respectful. It is saying that this is important and I want to be here not somewhere else. If they do take a call it is necessary and quick and they will apologize.
10.) When someone drops you off at home but doesn’t leave until they see you go inside. I appreciate that small gesture of kindness and concern. It shows that they truly don’t want anything bad to happen to you.
So if you aren’t sure to give someone another chance, check these 10 Green Flags In Dating and ask yourself questions, reflect on your experience and do a check in to see where you are at and if you want to take the next step.
Written By Michelle Apples
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