10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating
One thing I have found when it comes to helping people navigate dating is that confidence seems to be low.
So here are 10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating:
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #1 Above all pray and ask for wisdom.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him” James 1:5. Let Go and Let God.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #2 Do things that make you feel like the best version of yourself.
If that means working out, spending more time in nature, hanging our with encouraging people who refresh you, getting your hair done, or simply spending time to get ready rather than putting yourself together quickly. Becoming a more confident you is about knowing the things that make you feel more confident.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #3 Try new hobbies- specifically one’s that help you move your body such as any physical activity. (working out, dancing, rock climbing etc)
By getting into your body trying something new you get out of your comfort zone and become aware of your body in ways you have never been aware of it. The ability to perceive your body’s movements is called proprioception. It helps us move through space with ease and skill and plays a surprisingly important role in self-concept—how you think about who you are and how you imagine others see you.
Also by doing something physical, exercise increases neural connections among areas of the brain that calm anxiety. Regular physical activity can also modify the default state of the nervous system so that it becomes more balanced and less prone to fight, flight, or fright. Courage is another side effect of physical activity.
Also if that’s not enough to convince you – well at least when you have new hobbies then you have new things to talk about.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #4 Go in with a servant mindset
When we go into any social setting with the mindset of I am going to serve this person it’s a lot harder to be in your head when your mind isn’t on yourself.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #5 Be your truest self – don’t fit a mold
Have you ever tried on clothes that maybe were a size too small, and extremely uncomfortable. Well the same thing happens when you try to be someone you aren’t on a date – it’s not comfortable because it doesn’t actually fit. You can’t expect to be confident as a person you were never suppose to be.
Show up as authentic as you can. Wear things that you typically would wear, speak how you normally speak, know who you are and be authentic to the core of that. It’s okay to want to put your best foot forward, but show up as the best version of you.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #6 A date is not a commitment – take the pressure off
A date is not a commitment, it’s simply an interaction with another human being. When you make it more than this it adds pressure and expectation that was never meant to be there. We are called to love others, and you can’t do that when you have expectations already set on them.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #7 Take new photos and get someone else’s advice
Now if you are trying to find more confidence for online dating, why not get someone to take some new photos of you and get someone you trust to review them and give you their honest opinion. This will help you get better, more quality matches and feel overall more confident.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #8 Practice makes perfect
If you have never dated before of course you aren’t going to be confident. I am not suggesting you date a ton just to get your confidence up but go out with a trusted friend (preferably someone of the opposite gender) so they can give you feedback on date etiquette.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #9 Don’t compare
It’s so easy to get into a comparison mind trap when you are scrolling through social media all day, every day comparing yourself to everyone else. Try muting accounts that don’t make you feel like your best self, or even better take a social media detox.
10 Ways To Build Confidence In Dating #10 Write the vision
If you don’t know what your vision is long term for your life or relationship you will never know what to look for which means that you won’t have a standard which will ultimately less confident. When you know what your vision is you are able to stand firm and be confident in what you are looking for.
Written By Michelle Apples
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