It’s that time Christian Singles. We’re in the fall months, it’s getting colder, and the holidays are right around the corner. What does that mean? Singles usually feel even lonelier this time of year. We know the term right? Cuffing season.
In case you’re not familiar with this term, cuffing season starts in October and lasts until February after Valentine’s Day. Because of this, singles usually make poor relationship choices. They’re tempted to settle during this time.
They want someone to take home for the holidays, so they accept the invitation from a toxic ex. They don’t want to celebrate Christmas alone, especially when there’s a romantic feel to it and there’s mistletoe everywhere. So, most singles give their attention to someone that, even on their best day, they wouldn’t talk to. Yet, because of loneliness, they go on the date, anyway. They get into an unequally yoked relationship, anyway. They have sex outside of marriage anyway, desiring to be loved.
If this is you, you’re first invited to the Christian Singles Hub’s 8-Week Dating Workshop. If you want to learn how to combat loneliness, avoid red flags, and get a vision for your Godly relationship, then join us in the Hub starting October 13th.
Second, another resource I want to point you to is Pastor Jerry Flowers’ sermons Cuffing Season Volume 1 and 2. You can find these videos on YouTube under Redefined TV. Yes, there are other resources out there, but these series helped me.
I’ve been in a cuffing season before. There was an unsettling feeling in my spirit the entire time, but I ignored it. Why? I didn’t want to be by myself. Being alone for the rest of my life was a fear I had. I wanted someone to spend my time with. Someone I could be myself with. What did I get?
I got a patient, meaning I became a nurse to this man. Though he professed Christianity, I was the one he ran to for advice and counsel. Sure, it was okay, but his first source should have been God. I didn’t even realize it until one night God told me not to pick up the phone. He called four times in a row, but God said, “Don’t pick up.”
I had to obey. Was it tough? Yes. Did I like this man? Yes, but deep down, I knew it wasn’t right. I knew I was forcing things. I was so caught up in being in a relationship that I took the scraps.
How many of you are taking the scraps? You’re in a “situationship” and think that’s enough. At least you’re “talking to someone.” How many are stuck in toxic relationships because you don’t want to start over? You’ve spent too much time with the person, so you have to make it work, right?
What if this is your last chance? Can I share a line from Pastor Flowers that blessed me? “Heaven doesn’t have a shortage!” Read that again! Heaven, our God, creator of the universe, is not short on kingdom spouses. “So where are they” you ask? Why hasn’t God sent you yours? Why are you still alone at 25? 30? 40? 50? 60? I don’t know, but as I read in my devotional, “if God appears not to be answering your prayers, it’s possible He’s working behind the scenes.”
No, that’s not always easy to hear. What about practical tips, right? How can you combat these feelings of loss now as you wait? I’ll be sharing more since I’m discussing Cuffing Season October 20th in the Hub’s 8-Week Workshop.
Do I know what you’re going through personally? No, but I believe I will say something to encourage you. As God is teaching me, I hope I can share with others to give them hope.
Check out The Christian Singles Hub website for information on Christian matchmaking, Christian speed dating, upcoming Christian retreats, events, trips and so much more at https://thechristiansingleshub.com/
Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus & on Instagram @mysingleplus
