How can I trust God with my love life? I see a lot of fear with most Christian singles today. It’s the fear of being alone, not being chosen, and their prayers not being answered when it comes to marriage. So some take matters into their own hands to ‘make things happen’ in their dating life.
I felt this way too prior to meeting my husband. There was a lot of fear of what if it’s too late. Or what if the last guy I talked to was my last chance. I encourage you to fully surrender your dating life to God, trusting Him with the outcome.
When I realized God truly cared about my heart, it took the pressure off of me to ‘make it happen.’ Was it easy? No. Did I meet my husband right away after praying and surrendering? No, but when I made the conscious decision, sometimes several times a day, to trust God, the fear of being alone lost its grip on me.
I realized God wanted me to have His best and that’s why past relationships didn’t work. Were they bad guys in the past? No, but they weren’t fit for where God was calling me to. You see, who you do life with matters. Before marriage, we have a calling on our lives as believers to bring glory to Jesus. You can’t do that with just anyone, and God knows that. So He’s not going to bring someone into your life who will snuff out your gift.
Our God is good. His plans are to give us hope and a future. He’s not out to harm us, but even in heartbreak, He can take those wounds and make us stronger. Don’t feel like you have to take matters into your own hands. Trust God with your heart and your future. Do we know the timing of when blessings will arrive? No, but our faith is in God and not the results.
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Written by Daria White Osah
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How can you trust God with your love life? Well…you can’t, not really. God never promised romantic love to any of us.
Sure, some Christians take action to “make things happen.” And sure, some of them may be doing this out fear. Are they automatically wrong? If I’m unemployed, should I “make things happen”? Or should I sit around, pray, and wait on “God’s timing?” No, right? I should put in the work to look for job openings, do my research, submit applications, show up for interviews, and work hard to keep my job and improve at it. Or is God going to do all of those things for me? Why is dating or marriage any different?
If you’re a single Christian and you’re afraid of being alone, and discouraged at never being noticed or chosen, well, you can’t help any of that. You can’t help the way these things make you feel. No need to repress your emotions, your fears, your frustrations. Sometimes we do have to take things into our hands if we want to realize our goals. God can bless us with wisdom and advice,sure, but He doesn’t make life decisions for us, does He?
When Paul talks about this (1 Corinthians 7), he writes that, if you’re single and struggle to control sexual desires, you should try to get married. In this case, the Bible encourages marriage. It does not, however, promise that it’ll work out for you if you do decide to pursue it. But, still, he advises the reader to take action and marry. Not sit around waiting for something to happen (though it does seem to work out that way for some Christians)
You mention that “He’s not going to bring someone into your life who will snuff out your gift.” I don’t how much God really involves Himself in our dating lives. And I’m sure there’s many Christians who end up marrying people they were convinced was “God’s Chosen One,” and things still ended up badly. We all have the freedom to make choices and take action. Who knows how much God really involves Himself in these things, beyond the point of giving us some principles to guide our decisions?
Can we “trust God” with the outcome of our dating journey? Well, sure, I guess. But you don’t have to feel guilty about taking action when it comes to your dreams. It’s not a bad thing to desire marriage. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing to “take matters into your own hands.” Sometimes we have to.