Is There Such Thing As The One?
I don’t know about you, but when I was little I grew up watching movies of princesses that were sitting around waiting for their prince to come, fairytales with true love end stories, and I lived off of quotes such as “some day my prince will come”, or “I’m wishing for the one I love, to find me today.”
From such a young age we get this narrative that there is only one true love, only one prince and one white horse. Anyone who has ever been in a successful long term marriage will probably tell you there is no such thing as “The One”, why do I say that? because Marriage isn’t about falling in love, it’s about staying in love.
Is There Such Thing As The One?
There are 7.9 billion people in this world, if there was only one person for everyone – then if one person disobeyed (and we all know at least one person who married someone they probably shouldn’t have) Then it would throw off all of humanity, it would throw off everyone’s chances of meeting their one special person. So do I think that there is one person for everyone? No! I think we have been given a choice. We have been given free will, and we get the choice of who we end up with – so we better choose wisely.
I want to suggest that there isn’t just one person out there for anyone, but rather there is a #3 person out there for you and you already have your #1, his name is Jesus. The bible says “love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul and mind and love your neighbour as yourself.
Is There Such Thing As The One?
No the order should be:
#1 Love God
#2 Love Yourself (because if you don’t love yourself – you won’t be able to give love)
#3 Love Others
If we look at the New Testament, Paul even goes as far to say “A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:39 which doesn’t just imply we have a choice, but it straight up tells you that the only restriction on who you marry is “he must belong to the Lord”
Is There Such Thing As The One? No
A good relationship isn’t something you find, it is something you choose, you create, and you cultivate. I would even go as far as saying thinking there is “The One” out there is actually hindering you from a healthy relationship because it implies that there is no work involved, it implies that it will just show up and everything will be glorious. A healthy relationship is something you show up to, you work hard at and you choose over and over every single day.
Relationships are complex. They are two flawed human beings who found each other, and now get to navigate life together with grace, humility and kindness. It takes work and two people willing to put in that work. so Is There Such Thing As The One? No we have choice, but that is why we must choose wisely. Our relationships will effect so many other areas of our life. Be prayerful when choosing, and include Holy Spirit into the decision – He is your friend, advocate and your helper that will show you the way to go.
Written By Michelle Apples
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