Perfectionism will ruin your dating life
Perfectionism will ruin your dating life and I want to remind you that it’s ok to be a beginner at something and it is okay to be new on this journey. So often we strive to be experts or wish we have arrived, but here is why we need to strive for progress and not perfection when it comes to dating
We aren’t expected to show up perfect. We are progress in training. We never fully arrive and we as human beings are always growing, evolving and learning along the way. #1 Perfectionism will ruin our dating life because it’s not sustainable, eventually we burn out by trying so hard instead of just being exactly where we are.
I love when the bible talks about “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
For though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you again the basic principles of the oracles of God. You need milk, not solid food, for everyone who lives on milk is unskilled in the word of righteousness, since he is a child. But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.” Hebrews 5:12-14
#2 Perfectionism will ruin your dating life because we are to always be maturing and growing in Christ, we don’t ever show up perfect and we shouldn’t expect someone else to either. When we expect someone else to be perfect, they will simply never live up to our expectations and you may end up missing out on something really amazing because you find flaws or faults in them.
#3 Perfectionism will ruin your dating life because we should always be thinking “Progress, not perfection” which allows you to see other people the same way – evolving or maturing. It allows you to look past the silly little quirks someone may have (For me it’s my husbands horrendous singing and dance moves, but he loves it so I laugh along with him). You’ll get to play, learn, experiment, and get better over time but also give others the grace to do the same.
#4 Perfectionism will ruin your dating life does not mean not living a life of excellence, you want to show up every day, and keep striving for excellence. But excellence isn’t the same as perfection. Perfection is an illusion, and striving for perfection or looking for perfection in someone else only sets you up for failure. You aren’t yourself on a date but are performing and it puts pressure on the person in front of you the same way.
We all have quirks about us, we all have things we are working on, and Romans 3:23 reminds us that “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” that means that none of us are perfect (if we were we wouldn’t need a saviour). So remind yourself progress over perfection and give grace to those who are sitting across from us on a date knowing that none of us are perfect and we never will be.
Praying this encourages you and reminds you to take a breath, let go and let God!
Perfectionism Will Ruin Your Dating Life So Don’t Let It!
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Written By Michelle Apples
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