I’m currently reading Proverbs, and the verses in chapter 2 really stood out to me. Proverbs 2:6-11 (NKJV) says:
“For the Lord gives wisdom; From His mouth come knowledge and understanding; He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk uprightly; He guards the paths of justice, And preserves the way of His saints. Then you will understand righteousness and justice, Equity and every good path. When wisdom enters your heart, And knowledge is pleasant to your soul, Discretion will preserve you; Understanding will keep you.”
The phrases that resonate with me are, “The Lord gives wisdom,” “He stores up sound wisdom for the upright,” and “He preserves the way of His saints.”
To the Christian single who feels clueless when it comes to godly Christian dating or wonders, “How do I know?” I need to ask: Have you asked God for wisdom? Many Christians don’t consider asking God for guidance in dating because they don’t want to over-spiritualize it. I understand. This isn’t about praying, “Lord, the person whose name starts with an ‘E’ is my spouse,” but it doesn’t mean you can’t talk to Him as you navigate the dating world.
There’s nothing wrong with saying, “Lord, I have a coffee date. Help me to be myself and relax. No sense in rushing things when I don’t know. If it’s not a right fit, reveal it to me, and I’ll move on, trusting You with my love life.” God is the master of discernment and discretion, and according to His Word, He is our shield. That doesn’t mean we’ll never get disappointed, but even when things don’t go our way, we can trust our Father.
When was the last time you surrendered your dating life to God? Have you ever surrendered it to Him? I think many single Christians are so afraid of it not working out that they fail to ask God for wisdom. Why? Because they want it to work out so badly that they’ll sometimes ignore red flags. For some, a mediocre relationship seems better than none. This is not how God intended our relationships to be. They were meant to glorify Him and, most of all, point people to Jesus.
If the person you’re dating doesn’t point you to Jesus, that’s not the best relationship for you. So ask God for wisdom today. His Word says He has “sound wisdom stored up for the upright.” What wisdom are we leaving untapped because we’re either not living godly lives or we’re not asking God to avoid an answer we don’t want?
Before you can partner with someone here on earth, you need to partner with God first. He’s the only one who can keep your relationship together anyway.
Remember, God’s wisdom is a treasure, and He promises to guide us and protect us. Let’s not miss out on His guidance in our dating lives. Ask Him for wisdom today, and trust that He will lead you on the right path.
Written by Daria White Osah
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