5 Ways To Shift Your Dating Mindset
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
#1 Way To Shift Your Dating Mindset
Set Healthy Intentions
If you go into dating thinking this is going to be the love of your life then you will often get disappointed, but if you set the intention of I am going into this date to get to know this person in front of me and to enjoy an evening with said person then you will enjoy it so much more. So often we (even subconsciously) put this unnecessary pressure on one date.
The purpose of a first date is to discover if you want to go on a second date. Jesus loved people, He sat with all types of people around dinner tables and just spoke life into them. He called things that aren’t as though they are. What would happen is we all just went into dating with the intention of leaving the person better than we found them and finding the gold in the person rather than going into a date trying to find red flags. Dating would ultimately be way more fun.
#2 Way To Shift Your Dating Mindset
Have Fun With Dating
See dating as an adventure to try new things, different activities you have always wanted to try, maybe new restaurants you have wanted to check out. Dating gives you an opportunity to explore, to be in different environments, try new places, visit new neighbourhoods, and see things you may have otherwise never discovered. So enjoy it.
#3 Way To Shift Your Dating Mindset
Choose To See Rejection As Redirection
When someone rejects you remember that they aren’t rejecting you they just don’t think you have compatibility. Which is ok! Just remember that rejection happens and it just means it is a time to redirect. Not everyone is for you, and I think we have taken rejection far too personally. So often talking to singles they are so upset and heartbroken over someone they don’t even know if they liked simply because they were rejected. It’s not personal, it’s simply that they didn’t think you were compatible.
#4 Way To Shift Your Dating Mindset
Date For Curiosity And To Become A Better Dater
People are actually really fascinating. If you walk into dating with a sense of curiosity then you will always come out of it learning new things about human connection. You will understand dating behaviours, things you like, things you don’t like. You will learn a lot about the opposite sex and yourself. It’s actually amazing how much you can get to know other people through dating. Take it as an opportunity to learn, grow, develop, evolve and connect with people you may have never connected with otherwise.
#5 Way To Shift Your Dating Mindset
Date For The Moment Not For Forever
You cannot know the outcome of something before you even start the race so don’t go into dating asking about the future before you ever tested out if the person you are sitting across is even worthy of being in your future. The bible says you will know them by their fruits, but in order to know someone’s fruit it takes time spent getting to know them. Get curious, ask good questions, and actually be present enough to listen (even if you find them boring), they are still children of God, created by God and worthy of your time.
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Written By Michelle Apples
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