Sometimes, I catch myself marveling at how my life has unfolded—especially this year, being married still feels surreal. Just three years ago, my husband wasn’t even on my radar. I couldn’t have bumped into him on the streets or been set up by friends, because we had no connections, and he was a New York dweller, miles and experiences away from my Texas life.
Looking back, our journey to finding each other seems nothing short of God’s perfect timing. For a long while, I wrestled with the idea that maybe my prolonged singleness was a punishment or that I was somehow less deserving of love. But I’ve come to a heartening conclusion: God was never withholding love from me; He was safeguarding my heart for something extraordinary.
If you’re feeling the weight of your singleness, trust me, I understand. But it’s not a sign of God’s delay or denial. Have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, God won’t settle for giving you just ‘anyone’? Consider this: we’re living in a world craving the true light of Jesus. Why would God pair you with someone who’s half-hearted in their faith? Or someone who doesn’t value the sacredness of a committed relationship?
Sometimes, even those with genuine hearts aren’t meant for us, especially if they’re heading in a different direction. God, in His infinite wisdom, knows the potential for conflict that brings. He understands who’s right for us—and more importantly, when.
My husband and I? We would’ve been like oil and water if we’d met any sooner than we did. Back in 2011, or 2013, or even the early months of 2015, it wouldn’t have worked. We each had growing to do, and God in His mercy prevented us from hurting one another with the worst version of ourselves. We needed Jesus first before meeting each other. Marriage hasn’t made us perfect, but God’s grace has been our stronghold.
Remember, this isn’t just about finding a spouse. It’s about finding a partner in God’s kingdom work, someone to form a grace-filled covenant with. That’s the treasure worth waiting for. Yes, anyone can rush into marriage. You could swipe right tonight and find someone. But that’s not what you’re after, is it? Deep down, you believe in the profound value of waiting on God’s best.
I won’t sugarcoat it—waiting is hard. For some of you, it’s been longer than my 12-year stretch. But know this: your patience is not for nothing. The stories God weaves through our lives can move mountains and shine His light in the darkest corners.
People still find wonder in my marriage story, and that’s exactly what God delights in. He wants your story, whether single or united in marriage, to be a testament to His love and timing in this world that so desperately needs it.
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus
& on Instagram @mysingleplus
