I’ve seen a few recent posts on social media from both men and women expressing their discouragement in dating. Not just from singles who are in their 20s and 30s, but those in their 40s, 50s, and 60s. It’s understandable. Your feelings are great indicators that something is going on inside your soul.
Our soul houses our mind, will, and emotions, and this is the place the enemy hits hard. Your soul is either influenced by your body, aka your fleshly desires, or your spirit man is in the lead as Holy Spirit guides your way. We have to be on guard with what’s influencing our souls, because what we feed ourselves with is what will come out.
To the discouraged Christian Singles wondering, will they ever meet their spouse? To the single woman who hates spending her birthday or holidays alone. To the man who has a heart of gold but another woman “friend zoned” you, I want you to still be mindful of what you say.
As I mentioned in a previous post, you can be real with God about your emotions. He’s not scared of you expressing yourself. He even says in His word for us to cast all our cares on Him. He won’t break under the weight of it all. Jesus can handle it!
However, if you’re always talking about, “I guess I’m going to be single forever,” and “There’re just no more Godly singles in the world,” I urge you to watch your conversation. What are you talking about? Yes, this is easier said than done when your pain is legitimate. I’m not dismissing what you’re feeling and telling you to “get over it!” I’d never say that. Why? I know how you feel.
The pain is still the same even though I’m in a different season of life. I remember the late nights pouring out my heart to God for a Kingdom relationship. I was doing all the right things, so why hadn’t it happened to me as it appeared to with everyone else? I don’t know the timing of God. That’s something we will never understand, but as I’ve shared before, you can trust He has only good things in mind for you.
His word tells us that His plans are to prosper and not harm us. He wants to give us hope and a future. So when you’re tempted to complain or wallow in what you don’t have, how about we try gratitude? Yes, you read that right.
Gratitude? How about thanking God for not only what He’s doing for you, even if you can’t see it, but thank Him for what didn’t happen? For example, “God, thank you. I’m not in a toxic relationship. Thank you, God, that I’m not with someone who’s making me question my identity and self-worth. God, I’m grateful that you’re saving me for something great and beautiful and you’re not the type of Father who’ll just give me anything. Thank you that I mean the world to you and you only want the best!”
I guarantee the more you praise and thank God, your attitude will shift. You can take it further and start thanking God for your future spouse. “God, thank you that my spouse and I are one! We keep you at the center of our relationship and we grow stronger and closer every day. Thank you that we didn’t settle, and you saved us for one another.”
Can you thank God for what you can’t see? This is a faith step, I know, but that’s what we’re called to do as Christians. Walk by faith. When you want to complain, remember that you have a God that loves you. He’s not forgotten about you, and He never will.
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus
& on Instagram @mysingleplus
