“Maybe I’m meant to be single for the rest of my life.” I’ve seen many Christian singles think this way because they’re not married by a certain age. They start to believe that God must be calling them to permanent singleness. Yet, it’s confusing because they still want to be married. Which one is it?
I honestly believe that those called to true singleness rarely, if ever, have the desire to be married. They’re okay with being alone and don’t think much about being in a relationship. For the rest who think they may be called to singleness but still have the desire for marriage, I don’t believe they’re called to singleness for the rest of their lives.
Some may ask, “But it hasn’t happened, and I’ve been waiting for a long time. What if it’s not meant to be?” I don’t have all the answers to these heartfelt questions, but what I can tell you is that God hears your prayers. For most Christian singles, marriage can become an idol, and sadly, it’s often put on a pedestal in some churches. Many singles feel incomplete because they’re not married. But where is this in the Bible? We are only incomplete without Jesus Christ and Him alone, not if we’re married or not.
Is marriage promised in this life? No, but there’s nothing wrong with believing God for a spouse. We just need to have the right motives. No person or spouse will complete you. Find your wholeness in Jesus first. Run hard after Him, and you never know who you’ll meet on the journey.
Stay open. Trust Him. Don’t throw in the towel because it hasn’t happened for you yet. You have no idea what God is working on behind the scenes.
Don’t let the enemy make you grow weary in the waiting. That’s his plan—to discourage you to the point where you either settle or give up altogether. God is still putting kingdom relationships together. If you’re believing for a Godly spouse, don’t give up. God knows how to bring what we need and when to bring it.
Written by Daria White Osah
Check out The Christian Singles Hub website for information on Christian matchmaking, Christian speed dating, upcoming Christian retreats, events, trips and so much more at https://thechristiansingleshub.com/
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus
& on Instagram @mysingleplus
