“When will it be my turn?”
A question many singles ask when waiting for their future spouse. How long have you been waiting? Six months? 5 years? 12 years? 20 years?
Why does it take that long for some and not others? I don’t know why, but I’ll tell you my story. For at least seven years, I have been praying for a Godly spouse. In the meantime, I’ve seen classmates get married and childhood friends have children. I’ve even heard the dreaded statements, “when are you getting married,” “don’t you want kids,” and “don’t wait too long because you’re not getting any younger.”
I’ve wondered, like most of you, “Will this be worth the wait?” When it’s so tempting to settle and give up, what keeps me going? One, I love Jesus. I’ve learned His timing is perfect. He’s never late, even when I’m in a hurry for things to happen yesterday. In these seven years, my spiritual growth has increased. Am I perfect? No, but I’m better than I was two years ago.
He’s molding me into His image day by day. The more I spend time in His presence, He pulls back another layer for me to discover about Himself. I’ve even learned more about myself. The things He’s gifted me with and the passions He’s put on my heart have blossomed over the last few years. Could I have done this with a spouse and children? Sure, if it was God’s will, but I’m in a season where He wants my undivided attention.
What does He want you to do now? What needs your undivided attention? Will it be worth it? The years of waiting, lonely nights, and disappointing moments? I believe so, because Jesus sees the sacrifices we make for Him. He knows you could have settled, but you didn’t. He saw the time you almost gave in, but chose His will over your own. You think that’s not marked in Heaven? It is. God doesn’t miss a thing.
Seeking His Kingdom first, according to Matt. 6:33, “all these things will be added to us.” I don’t know what your “thing” is, but God knows the deep desires of your heart and mine. Trust Him with the outcome. Release the control.
In the meantime, keep the faith. Don’t sit around waiting for it to show up. Continue to live your life for His glory, but remember that whatever you focus on magnifies. So don’t focus on doubt, fear, or loneliness, but focus on Jesus. Yes, acknowledge the desire, but keep Him as your first target.
So again, will it be worth it? Yes. Anything done for Jesus is worth it. Especially after everything He’s done to show us, we were worth it to Him.
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus & on Instagram @mysingleplus
