“If it’s from God, you don’t have to second guess.”
What do I mean by this statement? We’re cautioned regularly as Christian singles to look for red flags, don’t settle, and never compromise who you are for a relationship.
All of this is great information. The Bible tells us to guard our hearts and we are to stay vigilant against the enemy’s schemes. Why? The enemy knows what you like too and he could wrap your demise up inside your preference.
Still, that’s not the theme here today. What about the green flags? What about things lining up as they should? What if they are a suitable match?
Are you in this boat? Has this person surprised you because they’re in sync with everything you’ve prayed for? It’s scary to hear them speak because you’re wondering, “God, is this really happening?”
I’m here to tell you when it’s God, you don’t have to second guess. That’s why it’s important not to rush into a relationship, because it’s possible you could have a counterfeit. Therefore, time is your friend here, and when you see the genuine fruit in this person’s life, believe it.
Yes, ask God for discernment. Don’t let your mind race too far ahead to the altar. Instead, take things one day at a time. However, as time passes, instead of questioning everything or looking for them to mess up, enjoy the process.
Too many relationships have been self-sabotaged because one person was ready, and the other thought, “This is too good to be true. Let me get out while I still can, so I won’t get hurt.” What’s wrong with this picture? Fear is the root of this response, and God has not given us the spirit of fear.
If this person is everything you prayed for, why run away? Wasn’t this what you wanted? Why run if it’s your dream being fulfilled? It doesn’t mean they’ll meet all your expectations. No one is perfect, but most of who they are will blow your mind.
You’ll see God in them and in how they treat you. You’ll feel seen, heard, understood, and, most of all, you’ll experience love the way God intended it. On top of running away, some question whether or not they deserve this type of love.
Can I tell you something? None of us deserves it because we’re all sinners, but God’s love makes you worthy. So if someone sees in you what Jesus does, and they want to love you, let them love you.
It’ll take some time to get used to a healthy relationship. There’s inner healing that has to take place as you learn to love this way. The point is, don’t run. Don’t self-sabotage. Let love in, and even if it doesn’t turn out the way you thought, at least you took a leap of faith.
Too many of us put our faith in the outcome instead of God. Even if the relationship doesn’t end in marriage, at least walk away from one another knowing you loved each other well. They’re not a bad person just because they didn’t marry you. Not everyone you date is your spouse, and wouldn’t you rather leave them unscathed? Or do you want them jaded when their spouse comes along? Instead, leave them with honor and integrity if your paths are not in sync.
We don’t think like this typically because we’re so disappointed, but let’s challenge ourselves today to mature, myself included. Love them well, even if they’re not destined for you. Don’t shut out authentic love over fear of being rejected. God knows what you need and He’ll provide in due time.
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus & on Instagram @mysingleplus
