As A Man Thinketh So Is He
Henry Ford once quoted “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right”and he was right.
The biggest thing standing against ourselves is… you guessed it! Ourselves.
So is the saying true?
As a Man Thinketh So Is He
When it comes to dating, mindset matters and I know in my own past experiences I have had to really work (and am still working) on ensuring that my mindset was/is right in every season.
When I was younger I was always afraid of someone disappointing me so I would always look for the disappointment, I would always look for a problem, and my mindset was always thinking of what was going wrong and rarely thinking of what was going right. Are you the type that is looking for the glass to be half empty or the glass to be half full?
Pause right now and just take inventory, pray and ask God – am I that person that is always looking for something that is wrong rather than what is right? Even in dating – are you always looking for the flaws, red flags in the person sitting across from you, or are you looking for the gold in them?
I took a season off of dating and was single for about 5 years and through that time, God really had to work on me. I was the most optimistic person I knew except for when it came to my dating life, because well I have a history and a childhood of men who have failed me since I was 4 years old so why would they stop failing me now? But God… He worked on me, and showed me He is the only perfect one who will never fail me.
After being single for 5 years, I started dating these really incredible Godly men and I had to realize that not all men are going to fail you. Some of them may not align with where God is taking you on this journey, but dating and relationships don’t always have to end badly.
I have had some incredible relationships that although weren’t meant to be I never felt like these men failed me, through dating them they began to raise my standard in dating and for what a God honouring relationship truly looks like. I no longer needed to look for disappointment, but look for how can I leave someone better than I found them, knowing that if it is God’s will than it will align, and if not than I will bless them and send them on their own journey. I vowed to always build people up into who God was calling them to be, and always leave relationships on a good note.
Proverbs 23:7 says “As a Man Thinketh So Is He” which tells us how powerful our thoughts truly are. If I constantly think men are going to fail me then they probably will because my expectation is set on that, my mind is set on that. When my mind shifted and was set on how can I honor the person in front of me, how can I find the gold and pull it out of them – my dating life shifted.
Your mind has so much power, so don’t allow your thoughts to hold you captive in your dating life.
Have you allowed your mind and thoughts hinder your relationships? Just remember that As a Man Thinketh So Is He and always take your thoughts captive
Written By Michelle Apples
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