I read this comment in a recent Instagram post related to singles. The post simply said that the wait for the right spouse will be worth it. Then I saw this comment. “God needs to hurry up.”
I wonder what the heart posture was of this person’s response. I’m sure we’ve all felt frustrated as Christian singles. I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen plenty of engagement stories recently with romantic proposals flooding social media. Perhaps you’re like this person’s comment, thinking, “God needs to hurry up,” but let’s break down what we’re really asking.
Have you ever had a grand meal? Think Thanksgiving style. How long did it take the cook to prepare all your favorites? While every family dynamic is different, I grew up in a household where the food would take at least two days to prepare. They didn’t rush but took their time, so when the meal was ready, the whole family could enjoy it!
What if I rushed it, though? What if I said, “This is taking too long,” and I put the turkey in the microwave? Would it have the same taste? What if I rushed the homemade rolls and bit into it only to taste the dough?
Have you ever gotten sick because you ate something that wasn’t cooked properly? Ever had food poisoning? What’s a food you’ll never touch again because of a terrible experience? How does this relate to waiting for your spouse? I’ll tell you.
Perhaps your spouse is in a season of healing from trauma and God is working on his or her heart. Do you care about their healing or is it, “God hurry up! I’m tired of being alone.” Or what if your spouse isn’t saved? They have yet to confess Christ, but again your mindset is, “I don’t care God, hurry up. I’m sick of waiting when everyone else is getting married!”
Then again, what if it’s not your spouse that needs time? Maybe you’re in a place that needs healing and growth and you don’t realize it. God wants your undivided attention because He knows if you met your spouse today, they’d become an idol. Do you care or is it still, “God hurry up!”
I hope this gets you thinking about what we’re asking God for. In a nutshell, we’re saying, “God, I don’t care if my spouse needs time. I don’t care if I’m still in a bad place emotionally. I want a spouse now!” Or perhaps this isn’t you. Your heart genuinely seeks to be loved and you ask God honestly, “when is it going to be my turn?”
I can’t answer that for you. I can only speak for myself. What I can say is I’m glad God didn’t answer my prayer for a spouse back in 2015. I’m also grateful He didn’t bring him in 2020 either. I was not in a place emotionally to handle the weight that comes with a Godly relationship. Yes, there’s romance. Adventures. Fun, but there’s also risk, vulnerability, selflessness, honesty, and sacrifice. You die daily to become one with your spouse. If we’re not dying daily now to be more like Christ, there’s no way we’ll do this in marriage.
So what am I telling you? Just like the talented chefs who take their time to prepare amazing meals, we serve an Almighty God whose timing is perfect. I don’t want a microwave marriage and I don’t think you do either. Yes, it’s difficult to wait when you see everyone celebrating their engagements and nuptials, but can you shift your focus a little?
God is preparing something amazing for you. Instead of thinking, “God needs to hurry up,” how about, “God, whatever you have for me must be good since I’ve waited this long.” Trust Him. He knows your desires. He sees the cries of your heart.
As I’ve said before, He’s not holding back from you. He’s holding something for you, and when the timing is right, be ready to receive. It’ll blow your mind!
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here:
Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus & on Instagram @mysingleplus
