“Whom have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you.”
I remember a time when passing notes was a thing before text messages. I remember the first note a boy slipped to me in church. You know the classic checkbox note. Do you like me? Check yes, no, or maybe.
At first I couldn’t believe it since he didn’t talk to me that much in public, but to my surprise, he had feelings for me. As a sixteen-year-old girl who had a crush on him anyway, I checked yes. It must have relieved the pressure he felt because from that day forward we talked more and more, which led into a friendship. Not only did he become my boyfriend, but a best friend.
As an adult, I’m no longer in that relationship. We went our separate ways, but I’ll never forget the kind things he said to me over the phone. It was nice to be seen, known, and loved. What human being doesn’t want to be loved?
Yes, as Christians, we hear God loves you all the time. We hear it in songs. Sermons, podcasts, and even conversations from those who are trying to encourage us in this single season. However, there’s a love story we don’t think about. So let me tell you my love story with Jesus.
While I grew up in a Christian home, I had a lot of insecurity. The enemy played with my mind and had me thinking I wasn’t enough. God made a mistake. I didn’t realize the lies, so I rehearsed them over again. I couldn’t escape the mental prison. I felt out of place as a child, but because I knew Jesus, I knew where to run. So the journey to healing began in His presence. I read more of the Bible. It wasn’t just another book. It became my go-to source for everything.
Then one day in prayer, Jesus whispered the sweetest words to my spirit. “Daria, you’ve always belonged with me.” It broke me down in tears, overwhelmed by the love expressed in that moment. What I quoted to you above is Psalm 73:25. “Who have I in heaven but you? And there is nothing on earth that I desire besides you (ESV).”
I know most Christian singles feel lonely. Forgotten. Abandoned. Why is God appearing to bless everyone else with relationships and marriage and not you? I hear your pain, but I want to remind you, you’re in the middle of a love story right now. If we desired God as much as we do a relationship, I guarantee our focus would shift. He’s been in love with us since the beginning.
It started in your mother’s womb. He knew you then. He’s loved you and still does with everything He has to give. Even to the point of death. Jesus gave His life because He wanted eternity with you. He doesn’t want to be away from you. That’s what sin does. It separates. God doesn’t want that.
So as we approach this Christmas season, go back to your first love. I know the romantic Christmas movies are playing. There’s mistletoe everywhere. Perhaps your family and friends are asking when you’re going to get married. It’s tough to sit alone when everyone else appears paired off, but you are not alone.
Just because you feel it doesn’t mean you have to succumb to the thought. You can decide to trust God’s timing. You can choose to bless someone that needs help instead of beating yourself up or being bitter that you’re still single. Instead of saying, “I’ll always be alone,” how about, “I belong to Jesus and He has only the best for me?” Whenever God brings your spouse, their love for you is still only a drop compared to the sea of Calvary.
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Written by Daria White Osah
You can find Daria Here: Devotional https://www.amazon.com/Dear-Younger-Me-Devotional-Personal-ebook/dp/B09QRKBRGB/
Her podcast Single Plus https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleplus
& on Instagram @mysingleplus
