A Few Lessons from Samson
As I study the book of Judges, I’ve arrived at the story of Samson. Though we know the story of him and Delilah, Samson had dysfunctional patterns long before he met her. What principles can we learn from a classic…
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When it Doesn’t Happen Right Away
I’m currently in a season where I’m waiting for God to move. I’ve done my part the best I know how, willing to learn and grow to improve. Like farmers plant their fields to receive a harvest, I’m expecting God…
Some Breakups are Necessary
We’ve all been there. You thought dating them would lead to a relationship. You hoped once in a relationship you’d get engaged. It didn’t work. Now you’re heartbroken. Perhaps you have been through divorce and feel like damaged goods. I…
When You’re Weary
Do you have a plan of action for when you get discouraged? Do you run to God or are there vices in your life you look to for comfort? While we can’t stop bad things from happening, we are in…
Guarded or Walled?
As Christian singles, we’re told to “guard our hearts.” Even the Bible says so because “out of it are the issues of life,” Proverbs 4:23. God knows how tender the heart is and if we’re not careful, we can be…
Are You Complaining?
listened to a sermon over the weekend and it talked about how the Israelites complained about God. God responded with, “those twenty years old and up will die in the wilderness. Everything you complained about will happen to you. The…
You Don’t Have To Second Guess
“If it’s from God, you don’t have to second guess.” What do I mean by this statement? We’re cautioned regularly as Christian singles to look for red flags, don’t settle, and never compromise who you are for a relationship. All…
How To Voice Your Boundaries
I saw a post recently from a woman asking how to voice her boundaries to a potential suitor. She didn’t want to offend him, but she wanted her needs in their growing relationship known. There were quite a few responses,…
God Needs To Hurry Up
I read this comment in a recent Instagram post related to singles. The post simply said that the wait for the right spouse will be worth it. Then I saw this comment. “God needs to hurry up.” I wonder what…
They Still Exist
Ever received a DM via social media that wasn’t appropriate at all? Or you decide to put yourself out there on a dating app, only to be disappointed? They said “Christian” in their bio, but their actions proved different? Whether…
Marriage Is Not The Reward
I listened to a teaching recently where a woman wrote an email to a ministry she was following online. She shared her discouragement since she was past a certain age and had never been married. She figured, “I did all…
Graced for the Right One
I’ve mentioned this phrase before, but I want to go deeper. Do you know the difference between nurturing and nursing? I watched a YouTube video discussing these terms, and the definitions blew me away, especially relating it to dating. Nurse,…
Take Out The Trash
I watched a sermon recently where a husband and wife both had trash bags. The bags represented the baggage they had and didn’t get rid of prior to saying “I do.” As they tried to embrace, they couldn’t. The baggage…
Peace and Clarity
I’ve heard both terms used in dating. How can you tell the difference between a God-centered relationship and one that’s not? Even if the person isn’t toxic, how do you determine if you should move forward? Let’s start with the…
Run To The Father
I won’t tell you I’ve been the perfect Christian. Though I grew up in a Christian home, I wasn’t convinced God loved me. I thought for sure I made too many mistakes. Why would He put up with someone like…
Identity in Christ, Not In A Relationship
How many of us have said, “I’ll feel better once I get into a relationship?” “Once I meet my spouse and have kids, I’ll be fine.” “I can’t lose this person. Where will that leave me?” Is it just me…
Dealing with Discouragement
This topic won second place in Single Plus’ recent poll. How do you deal with discouragement as a single? How do you combat it when almost every day you’re reminded of what you don’t have? Everyone else gets what they…
You’ll Never Know
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks…
Will It Be Worth It?
“When will it be my turn?” A question many singles ask when waiting for their future spouse. How long have you been waiting? Six months? 5 years? 12 years? 20 years? Why does it take that long for some and…
Competition In Dating
“Women outnumber men anyway, so there’s this feeling to compete.” Is this an accurate statement? I can see the heart behind it as a woman, and statistics show women outnumber men. Therefore, we’re in a competition to see who wins.…
I Thought I Could Handle This On My Own
It occurred to me recently that one of the best and worst phrases we can utter is “I thought I could handle this on my own.” In this world we are taught to have the desire to be independent, strong,…
When It’s God
How do you know when it’s God? You meet someone, and it appears as if it has the potential to be more. The pursuit is there. The attraction is mutual. You laugh and enjoy each other’s company. So… does this…
There’s Power In Your Words
I listened to Genesis 1-2 on the Bible app, hearing how God created the heavens, earth, vegetation, day and night, and everything else we see. Closing my eyes, it gave me a fresh experience, visualizing God’s Spirit hovering over the…
Did God Leave Me Out Part II
The Levites and the Singles (part 2) I am mind blown! If you thought God left behind the Levite tribe in Joshua 13:33, you thought wrong. Check out these verses in Joshua 21:1-3, 41-45 (ESV).“Then the heads of the fathers’…
